Tally up your kids’ Christmas gifts — it’s shocking!
I’ve found one of the biggest challenges facing my clients, my parents, my in-laws (and truthfully, my wife and I) during the holiday season is limiting what is spent on children. Here we are, 9 days away from Santa squeezing himself down my chimney, and my kids have already opened no less than 5 gifts each from neighbors, relatives, and schoolmates.
After the kids had opened the third gift, I decided to start keeping track of what the probable retail value of each gift was so that I’d have a final total of money spent on our little rugrats over the holidays. My total so far is approximately $75 PER KID! One of the toys is broken already. One gift, a stuffed animal, slept with my daughter for about three nights and then found his way to the toyroom. It will most likely never be seen again.
All this begs the question: How do we keep the largesse in check? I’ve tried talking to the grandparents — and admittedly, they’re picking up slowly on our cue to spend less on gifts and focus instead on money for college. After all, my 2 and 4 year old won’t remember how many $15 stuffed animals were bought for them. But they will remember how generous Grandma was when they cash the 36 savings bonds she gave them over 18 years to help pay for college. Thanks Grandma C!
There are two bottom lines here and one of them is yours. If you make Christmas an all-out spending spree on your kids, they’ll come to expect it. And there is a direct proportion to the age of your kids and the cost of their Christmas list. A seven year old I know is getting a $200 Nano from Santa. Need I say more?
The other bottom line is your kids are picking up on money cues whether you’re consciously providing them or not. Make sure you make Christmas about something more than…how full is my stocking?
